With Mother’s Day this month, it can be a time to reflect upon the nurturing we received from our mothers, just as it can be a time to reflect on the nurturing we provide to our own children. For some this can bring great joy, but for others it can be painful, as many have either lost their mothers, or perhaps the relationship may not be quite as idyllic as they wish it were.
Parenting a child can also be conflicting. Whereas raising children can be deeply fulfilling, it can also be demanding and even depleting at times. Mothers tend to experience more illnesses, stress, and challenges brought about from raising children in their marriage than women who choose not to procreate. They must navigate a societal pressure to silence these emotions, as women are conditioned to think it ungrateful to complain about these challenges.
This month’s blog is about self-nurturing, as this is the kind of loving support we need in our lives since there are times we have may not have anyone else to turn to but ourselves. These suggestions will help you develop a healthy practice of caring for your own self, both physically and mentally.
–Treat yourself to a massage or a facial- or both! The sense of being touched is highly nurturing and soothing. Allow yourself to get pampered.
–Go to movie…alone. This may force you to leave the comfort zone, but once the lights are out, it’s just you and the big screen.
–Spruce up your wardrobe. Peruse your closet and buy yourself a few new pieces that update your look. Donate the things you rarely wear.
–Breathe…Relax…Meditate! Need guidance with this? I recently released an audio Deep Relaxation Series- download and listen your way to peace and bliss! http://www.stopandbreathe.org/products
-Take a warm bath Light some candles, put in a few drops of lavender, and soak away.
-Be one with nature Take a walk, run, hike or bike ride. Be mindful and pay attention to the trees, sky, mountains, flowers, etc.
-Crank the music and dance! You know the saying, ‘Dance like no one is watching you.’ Well, they aren’t. So get your groove on!
-Hit the gym Cardio, weights, yoga, swimming, or whatever motivates you. The endorphins gained in a workout will uplift your mood and nurture your soul.
-Curl up with a good book Find a cozy spot to relax and engross yourself in that book you’ve always wanted to read. Or maybe read a magazine or do a crossword puzzle.
-Go to a farmer’s market, art fair, outdoor festival or concert Enjoy the sights, sounds, and smells around you. Sometimes it’s nice to be on your own agenda.
Women are incredibly powerful and amazing nurturers. Giving so much of ourselves while not taking care of our own needs can deplete us and is unhealthy. Practice self-nurturing and enjoy the sense of fulfillment gained when taking care of the most important person in your life- you!